Let’s be clear about one thing: a chastity husband is a very different proposition from a chastity slave. But, unfortunately, for men and particularly women who are seeking impartial, accurate and sensible advice about male chastity more often than not are bombarded with inaccurate and largely fanciful tales of enslavement and orgasm denial which simply do not stand up to critical scrutiny.
Now, you might say there’s no harm in people posting their fantasies on forums and blogs, since they have the right to free speech and there’s no harm being done. This is true. However, the same freedom of speech means I and other women and men who actually embrace the male chastity lifestyle are entitled to point out the inconsistencies and outright inaccuracies in what passes for “advice” on this topic.
Not Every Chastity Husband Wants to Submit to His Wife as a Chastity Slave
Many men, like my husband, John, wish to cede control only in this one narrow part of their lives: that is, they wish only to give their wives control of their orgasms. It categorically does not necessarily mean they want to be feminised, cuckolded, abused or generally treated as a second-class citizen.
Why is this so important?
Because in the main, men are the ones driving a male chastity lifestyle, certainly in the beginning, and frequently the first thing their wife discovers about the subject is the hype and nonsense which makes male chastity equivalent to male slavery. And it simply isn’t. In my experience having a chastity husband is a delicious and delightful enhancement to our lives, a fun and exciting kinky sex-game played out over a period of days, weeks, months, and ultimately years.
A Chastity Slave, on the Other Hand Extends the Concept of Control to Other Areas of His Life.
Depending on the level of “slavery” you’ve both agreed on, this can be as simple as bedroom play to a whole lifestyle thing where he does as he’s told all the time or woe betide him. I personally wouldn’t want that and, so far as I can tell in my research, nor do most of the women being introduced to the male chastity lifestyle by their men.
On the other side of the coin, most women don’t find submissive men attractive. Some do. Most don’t. And some women revel in dominance and “power” but, again, most of us don’t. This is not to say we don’t enjoy the power of our femininity – I think most women will confess to getting a kick out of knowing how her sexual allure can send men into a flat spin.
But that’s a long, long way from wanting to be a “dominant female”. The crucial difference is a chastity husband wants to surrender to his desire whereas a chastity slave wants to surrender his will. The former is likely going to be attractive to most women because it doesn’t mean if she embraces the male chastity lifestyle her man has to become subservient to her.
He can, like my husband, remain strong, confident and sexy yet still have that tiny vulnerability exactly where we want it – his desire for you as a woman.
To Sum Up
If you’re a woman whose man has confessed to her his desire to embrace the male chastity lifestyle and become your chastity husband, don’t be put off by the forums and hype which have you thinking he wants to become your chastity slave.
Because it’s not necessarily so, it doesn’t have to be that way and the fact is most women and men would be happier if it’s not.
So, if you’d like to put a bit of life and passion back into your relationship, and have him eager to help and pamper you, just like he did in the good old days, but without him being a sissy-boy doormat, then…